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Thursday, November 12, 2009
Redefining Relationships

Relationships are hard to define. Really.
It used to be either you're Single, or Attached.
But since the development of Friendster, and more recently Facebook, statuses cover a much wider ground, depending on whether there's a mutual liking, whether there's a commitment, and whether there's the intimacy.

But as much as possible, I've come accross many friends who sit on the grey area between being single, and being attached, and I'll try to make sense on all this nonsense about the saying "Single, but Available."

But one thing is certain, it cannot be exclusive, if you're afraid of commitment.
I refer to Steinberg's theory on triangular love for this.

And I've somewhat further on explain on the different facets of a relationship based on the different levels of commitment.

I separate the triangle into 2 main parts, exclusive, and non-exclusive. Exclusive would be one, where there's just one person. Non-exclusive would mean that there can be two, or more people involved with the individual at any one time.
Exclusive relationships are not recommended for the commitment-phobic.

At this point, I'm a bit tired. I'll explain this further in the future.

nakalboi. Another day is done;
- 12:08 am

Saturday, November 07, 2009
I only got So much to Give.

This is the part that I don't understand.

As a human, there's only so much that I can give; my energy, my time, me resources.
And when I've given my all, you can't expect more from me.
I'll break.

A saw a slew of interesting statuses and what nots, form FB, Twitter and MSN.
One struck me.

"love me when i least deserve it, because that is when i need it the most. "

I find it hard to comprehend this.xt.U Ivh g Mentioned time and again, guys are really simple creatures. Understanding how we think, and why we do things, is simple and pure logic. No need to over-think on it.

And when we love, we give it our best.
But when you push us to the limit, cos of your plain, perhaps unthoughtful actions we break, cos there's only so much that we can take.

I don't get the part that the guy has to be forgiving.
I don't understand the part where we need to give in. And it's not as if we're stubborn creatures in to begin with.

I don't understand the part, where we need to be the tail, when we should be the head.

I can be stubborn, and I am, naturally.
I can be assertive, and I am, naturally.

Just like what I said to a girl previously, when the girl gets too troublesome or asks for too much, we move on.

Nice guys finish last? Perhaps. Cos we keep moving on, and taking detours, and enjoying the things we see, touch, hear and feel along the way.

Above everything being all grown up now, I realise that some things are only superficial, and to suspend judgment and give things a 2nd shot might give you good returns. I found that girl who doesn't stop to amaze me, the girl who's great company.
Cos at the end of the day, I can only commit the same mistake twice. And not for the third.

nakalboi. Another day is done;
- 11:33 am

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